As most of us know, “Good Vibes” means to live life positively, but, I feel like more often than not, this little piece of advice can only go so far. When someone is in an unhealthy situation or having a bad day, “good vibes” doesn’t really mean much at the time.
I used to work as a bartender and sifted through quite a lot of nightlife bar jobs. Getting drunk every night for free was certainly fun, and making tons of $$$ was even more fun but as I got older, and thought more seriously about where my life was heading, the nights started to take a toll on me. Maybe it was my age, maybe it was my mindset, or maybe it was my “weak” stomach, but I wasn’t the same after a while. I changed. Yet, above all else, as I changed, I grew, and I learned that good vibes can directly relate to the people you hangout with. I think that surrounding yourself with people who want similar things as you, or who have similar goals in mind is a major key to living a positive life. I realize everyone is different and going through different stages in his or her life- like the quote I once read, “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” There is nothing wrong with those who enjoy working in the nightlife industry but there is also a difference between needing to get by and always chasing a good time. At some point, we all have to grow up, which means that, despite what Kate Moss says, you can’t always have a good time. Part of life is about ups and downs, good times and bad times, fun times and serious times; without the struggles of life, we wouldn’t be equipped to handle tough situations. But, more than anything, it’s about how you handle those situations. I still like to get dressed up and go out. I mean just this weekend it was my fiancé’s 28th birthday, we had a beer pong tournament and then headed to a popular pub in our city. It was an absolute blast! We celebrated the night away. But Monday is here now and we’re back to that grind.
I have all kinds of people in my life but the one thing those people have in common is goals to succeed and grow at whatever they’re passionate about. One of my closest friends, Mel who lives in London, started an app in which she grinds every day working towards making her app one of the top apps on the market. Seeing her determination gives me determination. Another close friend works as a financial analyst (so fancy), I still don’t know exactly what her job entails, but she works for the federal government, is incredibly smart, and loves what she does. Her energy fuels mine and encourages me to do better. Sure, we all have our struggles, but those who we surround ourselves with can help pick us up from time to time, when we need it most.
I’m sure everyone reading this knows someone who is draining to be around. Always negative, no goals or ambition, always blaming someone for something happening to them; these are the kinds of people who are convinced life is shit. And so it is. But surround yourself with good people and watch the good vibes come. I once read something that is still one of my top 5 favorite quotes of all time,
We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.
This was said by Jim Rohn, whom (or is it who? I still don’t know) also said, “In order to increase your wins, you’ve also got to increase your losses.” We are all incredibly effected by our environment, more so than you might like to think, which means that if you’re hanging out with draining people, you will inevitably become drained yourself. So why not surround yourself with positive people? Cut your losses and slowly watch your life change. I know I did.
Started from the bottom…
Now we here…
At a conference not too long ago, where I got to meet and hang with the beautiful, entrepreneur, Lilly Ghalichi. This girl started out in Law school with a very strict family, and chased her dreams of creating a beauty empire. Again, surrounding myself with influential, positive people changed my life.